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Halloween: Planning & Safety

Maria Montessori found that children up to age 6 need a very strong foundation in reality.  They absorb their environment as a way to understand the world, and when fantasy and fairy tales are introduced too early, children can become confused about what is ‘real’. I remember distinctly many years ago on a solo trip to six flags with my 3 year old nephew William, as we walked through the Disney themed children’s section, he demonstrated this for me and it’s stuck with me ever since.  When we were on the ride Around the World, my nephew asked “are those people real or pretend?”  This question was repeated on almost every ride.  As adults, we know the difference and enjoy the fantasy as an escape from the real world.  However, to a child under 6 years of age, everything is real as they try to make sense of our world.

As we head into Halloween this week, consider this when your children pick their costumes.  Real life costumes such as a mailman, doctor, police officer and veterinarian help your child relate to the real world.  Too late this year?  This can also be applied to your dress-up bin for your children.  In fact, after Halloween is a great time to stock up on dress-up outfits!  I like Lakeshore Learning for high quality, real-life costumes.

Some Montessori schools do “Historical Halloween” where each child chooses to study a real-life historical figure.  On Halloween, the child dresses as that historical figure and gives a presentation about what they learned about that person.  Other schools, especially classes with children 6 years old and under, prefer to maintain the routine of the classroom and leave Halloween celebrations for home.  These classroom may focus on real-life aspects of Halloween, such as parts of a pumpkin, parts of a bat, or naming the bones of a skeleton.

Grace & Courtesy: Trick-or-Treating

I wanted to touch on grace and courtesy lessons for Halloween.  Have you considered what a great opportunity Halloween provides to practice patience and manners?  As with anything Montessori, modeling and practicing the desired manners is the most successful way to demonstrate them to your child.  Verbally telling them all of the rules will just bore them (and probably you!).  You can role play with your child to practice – be prepared for lots of repetition…this is fun!

Have your child observe you as you trick or treat – you can ask a neighbor, sibling, other parent or friend to hand out candy.  The first time or two, your child can walk with you while you model appropriate trick or treating.  Here are some of the manners our family uses for trick-or-treating.

  1. We trick-or-treat only at houses with the porch light on.  Houses with the lights off are telling us they would prefer not to have trick-or-treaters.

  2. We walk on sidewalks or stepping stones only, staying off of grass, rocks and flowerbeds.

  3. Once we’re at the front door, knock or ring the doorbell once (I personally prefer knocking first, then one doorbell ring if they don’t hear the knock).  Now wait patiently, a few steps away from the door.  Do not look in the windows.

  4. If no one answers the door, move on to the next house.  Do not keep knocking and ringing the doorbell.

  5. If someone answers, smile and say “Trick or Treat!”  Stay on the porch, do not peek in the house and do not walk into the house.

  6. If the person holds out a bowl of candy, take only one piece of candy unless you are invited to take more.

  7. I always say “thank you” when I’m given a treat.  If I don’t like this kind of candy, I still say “thank you” and will not tell them that I don’t like it.  I can always trade for a different kind of candy when I get home.

  8. It’s kind to say “Happy Halloween” before leaving.

Now it’s your child’s turn to try.  After practicing a few times, switch roles – it’s fun for the children to pretend they are adults!  After they have had a lot of practice, you can make it more fun by “making mistakes” and breaking the rules.  Your child will probably correct you, or you can laugh at your own mistake and correct yourself, saying “Oops, I’m not supposed to walk on the grass!”  We all make mistakes, and it’s good to model how to recover from mistakes too.

Grace & Courtesy: Road Crossing Safety

My former Montessori classroom was held in a beautiful school, in a brand new building right across from the waterfront which gave us a perfect view of NYC, in particular the One World Trade Center & Freedom towers.  Much to my dismay the only way to get to the lovely waterfront park was to cross the very busy Hoboken street alone with 22 two to six year olds. Alas, crossing the road safety became one of our favorite things to discuss. In a straight line we would walk in pairs, holding hands when crossing the street, and each time we crossed we practiced “stop, look and listen” – looking both ways to check for traffic.  Those 6 minutes each school day were some of the most stressful of my life haha. On Halloween, when we are out after dark and very excited, these rules are especially important.  Training Happy Hearts suggested this song:

Stop, look and listen.

Hold a hand to cross the street.

Look left, right, left.


Then, use your feet.

Its a short and catchy song to help your kids remember the safety rules.  Have a safe and Happy Halloween!

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